An Indecent Proposal Poll

[madbaker]

One of my broker contacts recently got engaged. He and the girlfriend had been dating for quite some time, and she essentially told him to propose by the end of the year (2004) or break the relationship off.

He proposed at 12:20 AM, January 1 2005. Because he didn't want to end the relationship, but didn't want to give in to the ultimatum.

The wife said that in that situation she would have turned him down. Others have chuckled. What's your response?

[Poll #429926]

Comments

[scendan.livejournal.com]

I think an ultimatum smacks of problems coming from both sides of the relationship. If the woman feels she needs to give an ultimatum, that says that the expectations the two of them have for the relationship are probably too divergent for things to ultimately go well. Either she wants too much too soon, or he doesn't want to commit, or their timing is quite simply out of synch. Not a great place in which to marry.

Of course, note how successfully married I am! *snort*

[scendan.livejournal.com]

Oh, and also...yeah. Laying out an ultimatum at the "beginning" of marriage is...err...not great.

[strmonkey.livejournal.com]

Your not married because you didn't settle on just anyone. I didn't think I was going to get married at all. I wasn't even looking forward to it. But when you meet the right person-there isn't ultimatums, you don't give up things (you adjust things).
I am watching my best friend go through her second marriage (only 7 months) because while I dated assholes-she married them. Sweetie DON'T MARRY THE ASSHOLES!!!

[scendan.livejournal.com]

Good advice, definitely, from one in the know. :)